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Sex life after childbirth: 5 tips on rediscovering intimacy

Most new parents find that love and tenderness are often replaced by diaper changes and lullabies. Changes in the love life are inevitable after childbirth. It's important to be a supportive partner as you both navigate between parenthood and intimacy.

Would you like to learn more about how you and your partner can rediscover intimacy? Read our article about how to keep love alive as new parents and download the LEIA Health-app for more articles.

Here are 5 tips on how you can navigate the changes together and rediscover intimacy


1. Physical Challenges

The fourth trimester is a big challenge, after childbirth many women experience changes in their bodies. Pain, bleeding, and hormonal imbalances can push sex life to the back seat. Aches and discomfort are not uncommon, it is common to feel some discomfort in the genital area while it heals, which typically takes about 6-8 weeks after delivery. During this time, it might be wise to wait and it is important to show understanding and patience.

2. Emotional journey

In addition to physical challenges, your partner also goes through an emotional rollercoaster. The expectations of being a good mother and partner can be overwhelming. So, even tough intimacy doesn't always mean sex, you can help by offering support and closeness.

Resuming your sex life after childbirth is like navigating a labyrinth – sometimes it's clear and straightforward, while other times it feels like a mystery with more obstacles than expected. Share your expectations and find solutions together.

3. Small steps to significant change

It's essential to remember that sex doesn't have to be limited to penetration. Tenderness, caresses, and intimate moments of closeness are equally important. This is a process where small steps can lead to more significant changes over time. It's about rediscovering intimacy on your own terms.

4. Communication is key

Communication is key when you are rediscovering each other and your sexuality. What you previously enjoyed may not be the same now, and that's completely okay. Therefore, it's important to talk to each other, about your needs and listen to how you should approach your sex life moving forward.

5. Therapy

If the challenges still feel overwhelming and negatively affect your relationship, don't hesitate to seek professional support. Couples therapy or individual therapy can be highly beneficial in addressing the physical and emotional challenges that postpartum sex life may bring. Seeking help is a sign of strength and commitment to your relationship. Remember that you are a team. By being empathetic and communicating openly, you can build a stronger relationship and rekindle intimacy in your partnership. Best of luck!

''We had difficulty getting started with intimacy after childbirth, but when we read these tips, it felt much better.''


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